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Lessons Learned on the Journey to Alphadom

Outcome Independency Is Not a Tactic

A lot of pickup material is linked to the concept of not being outcome dependent, (i.e. not going up to a girl with a fixed end point in mind).

The temptation is to try to use outcome independency as a way to get girls, but think about it for a second. In using outcome independency as a way to get laid, you defeat the purpose of outcome independency.

If you’re trying to not to focus on the endgame as a way to get laid, well, you’re contradicting yourself. If you try not to be outcome dependent and think it’s magic key to the Pussy Kingdom only to fail, you’ll end up frustrated and angry because you were actually depending on outcome independency to get some ass.

That’s because it’s not a tactic, it’s a way of life.

Example, for the past few months I’ve been going to clubs and trying not to focus on getting girls, only to be frustrated when I went home alone. You can imagine what kind of headspace I was in. “I’m not just thinking about getting laid, so I should be getting laid!”

I went out last night with a two friends and a friend’s girlfriend with my aim being true outcome independency. I danced like noone was watching. I talked like no-one was around. I acted like everything I did was awesome. It was the best night out I’ve had recently.

I got the interest of some girls but I messed up at some stage (haven’t fully internalised the concepts of game yet) when I actually talked to them for a bit. The point is, before I would have been angry at myself for not getting any girls, but right now, I just don’t give a damn. It was an awesome night anyway.

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